Let’s be real: Sex is one of those things where open communication is key, but sometimes it can be hard to say what you’re really thinking in the moment. Whether it’s focusing too much on one thing or missing the signals that signal what actually it feels goodthere are some things that men can get a little wrong during sex.

For example, you may feel that men tend to jump foreplay and go straight to the “main event” without fully warming up.

Or maybe cunnilingus is completely excluded from the table even though he expects you to hate him?

Maybe men tend to focus on penetration rather than stimulating you in other ways, leaving you bored and less than satisfied.

We therefore ask you, the BuzzFeed Community: What do you think men often misunderstand or could do better in the bedroom? Time to spill the tea (or maybe just help everyone have a better time!)

Anything you think men should improve in bed, tell us below! However, if you prefer to remain anonymous, do not hesitate to fill out this form. Google Form. Your response may be used in a future BuzzFeed article!