A man is upset that his mother invited him and his wife to dinner, but failed to prepare anything that his wife, a vegan, could actually eat.

In an anonymous post shared on Redditthe man writes that he recently married his longtime fiancée, adding, “She and my mother never really got along. I always hoped things would get better after marriage.”

Recently, her mother invited the newlyweds to dinner.

“Now my wife is vegan. She was vegetarian before but became vegan a few months ago,” the man wrote in his message. “My mom KNOWS she’s vegan.”

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But despite knowing his wife’s lifestyle, the mother “did not prepare a single vegan dish for her,” the son writes, “except a soggy salad.”

“Even the vegetarian soup, she added chicken broth to it, to make it “more flavorful”. The rest was non-vegan items like mac and cheese, fried chicken, jambalaya and banana pudding for dessert – everything my wife can’t eat, he adds.

So the man told his mother that the couple would leave without eating anything – but his mother offered him another option.

“My mom said she could just take the shrimp out of the jambalaya and eat the salad. I told her that’s not how it works,” he wrote. “Then she started insisting that the vegetable soup was good. I pointed out that it wasn’t vegan because of the chicken broth.”

After his mother asked his wife if she could “eat normally for a day”, the man had had enough.

“My wife said no, but she didn’t mind eating salad, but I knew she was just trying to save the day and was fed up with the way my mother treated her, so I thanked my mother and told her we were leaving,” he wrote.

He continued: “My mother freaked out, she blamed us for being disrespectful, she said she spent hours cooking all this food for me. I told her that was the problem, she should have think about Olga too. My mother said I was exaggerating.” because “it’s not like she’s allergic or anything.” ”

Now the man wants to know if he was wrong to leave before dinner, but the majority of commenters say his mother didn’t treat his wife with respect.

“The fact that your mother didn’t cook anything for Olga to eat is a huge power play,” one wrote.

Another added: “You did the right thing. You stood up for your wife. Your mother’s behavior is unwelcoming and extremely passive-aggressive (maybe just aggressive?). Above all, and this is what I want you to focus, your mother’s behavior is these things. only towards your wife“.